When it comes to dating, it really is a jungle and just when you think you know what you're doing, the whole landscape
changes!An eligible male friend of my boyfriend was over for dinner the other night. Excited about being newly single, he's keen jump in try it all, to find a nice girl.
He's just discovered Tinder.
My boyfriend, his friend and I sat on the couch swiping through the girls on his phone, the "yes's", "no's" and the "why not's".
For those of you not on Tinder, (and there are a few left out there!).. it's a bit like a game, you cross or tick someone based on their photos. Your profile is hooked up to theirs by proximity and shared interests linked though your Facebook page.. it seems pretty shallow at first, but stay with me...
Now while I think I CAN help pick out the sweet girls for our single friend, when it comes to "picking up" a girl, obviously this isn't my field.
You can't walk up to them and buy them a drink can you.. !?
So, I asked my wonderful neighbour to come to the rescue. Nikki Goldstein, who happens to be a sexologist, shared some Tinder truths.
Now there are four of us on the couch.. breaking down an app.
According to Nikki, men should get straight to the point and ask out a girl they like. It makes sense, you'll only know if you really like someone when you meet them in the flesh. Ofcourse the first meeting should be in a public place.
Think about the profile picture you're using, you don't want to be overlooked, just because of an old/daggy pic!
No one should be ashamed to be on Tinder. It's becoming more acceptable. More than half of us have tried dating online or would consider it a viable option to find a partner.
So here's Nikki's thoughts on this crazy-popular dating app...
Who is on Tinder?
"Originally 'everyone' was on Tinder and I think everyone still is but not all of those people are active. It is generally for the people that are too busy or don't feel like going out to bars to meet people.
They might be a bit shy or even just simply opening up more options. Unfortunately it has become a bit of a booty call ground. Many people a
They might be a bit shy or even just simply opening up more options. Unfortunately it has become a bit of a booty call ground. Many people a
re on Tinder because it's easy to pick up. Instead of going out and flirting with someone they can click on their phone and find someone 'easy' to sleep with
straight away (how great for guys in winter, lol).
They might be a bit shy or even just simply opening up more options. Unfortunately it has become a bit of a booty call ground. Many people a
They might be a bit shy or even just simply opening up more options. Unfortunately it has become a bit of a booty call ground. Many people a
re on Tinder because it's easy to pick up. Instead of going out and flirting with someone they can click on their phone and find someone 'easy' to sleep with
straight away (how great for guys in winter, lol).
Online dating has become more acceptable but there still is a stigma?
"Heaps of singles are on it but there is also this belief of "why can't you meet a person in real life?" But the thing is it's becoming harder and hard because of technology.
We are becoming so reliant on on line dating and apps and communication on Facebook and twitter etc, that we are needing these avenues to date because it has become socially acceptable to do it online and not in the flesh any more.
Maybe if it wasn't so acceptable and there was more of a stigma more people would be switching off and going back to the old fashioned way. We need to find a happy medium that we have not yet achieved yet and I'm waiting for the moment where what becomes acceptable is old fashioned values where a man was a gentlemen and made quite a bit of effort to ask someone out.
Would you rather me clicked on on an app along with a bunch of other women.... or be the one in the street that takes his breath away.. so he has to approach you?"
For me, I like that my boyfriend picked me up at a bar, the old fashioned way. But the truth is, if I met him on tinder, I would have seen his handsome pic, he'd probably use a killer line and I'd still be swiping right for "YES!".
Our dating friend by the way, is still enjoying Tinder and if you're lucky, you might meet him on there. ;)
"Heaps of singles are on it but there is also this belief of "why can't you meet a person in real life?" But the thing is it's becoming harder and hard because of technology.
We are becoming so reliant on on line dating and apps and communication on Facebook and twitter etc, that we are needing these avenues to date because it has become socially acceptable to do it online and not in the flesh any more.
Maybe if it wasn't so acceptable and there was more of a stigma more people would be switching off and going back to the old fashioned way. We need to find a happy medium that we have not yet achieved yet and I'm waiting for the moment where what becomes acceptable is old fashioned values where a man was a gentlemen and made quite a bit of effort to ask someone out.
Would you rather me clicked on on an app along with a bunch of other women.... or be the one in the street that takes his breath away.. so he has to approach you?"
For me, I like that my boyfriend picked me up at a bar, the old fashioned way. But the truth is, if I met him on tinder, I would have seen his handsome pic, he'd probably use a killer line and I'd still be swiping right for "YES!".
Our dating friend by the way, is still enjoying Tinder and if you're lucky, you might meet him on there. ;)
XX
JT
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